Tips for Parents

How to Help Your Student Through the Student Conduct Process

Before your student arrives on campus:

  • Have an open discussion with your student about the process of making good decisions, taking responsibility for your actions, and responding to peer pressure.
  • Make sure your student knows clearly what you expect and what you value.
  • Remember that your student will look to you as a role model for dealing with and responding to conflict.
  • Be open to discussing difficult topics such as substance abuse, intimate relationships, and other risky behavior.

When it has been alleged that your student has violated the Butler University Rules of Conduct:

  • Speak with your student regarding the situation. Make sure that you listen carefully and critically.
  • Make sure your student knows the student conduct process. Your student should review the Rights and Responsibilities, Rules of Conduct and the Student Conduct System sections of the Student Handbook.
  • Discuss with your student your expectations for their behavior at Butler University. Discuss ways your student can modify his or her behavior to meet those expectations.
  • Brainstorm with your student appropriate resources for help and support (e.g., alcohol education, personal counseling, etc.).
  • Let your student know where you stand regarding his or her behavior, while continuing to support them emotionally.
  • Brainstorm with your student ways to overcome past mistakes.
  • Be firm in your approach but always keep the lines of communication open.