Tips for Parents
How To Help Your Son or Daughter Through The Student Conduct
Before your son/daughter arrives on campus:
- Have an open discussion with your son/daughter about the
process of making good decisions, taking responsibility for your
actions, and responding to peer pressure.
- Make sure your son/daughter knows clearly what you expect and
what you value.
- Remember that your son/daughter will look to you as a role
model for dealing with and responding to conflict.
- Be open to discussing difficult topics such as substance abuse,
intimate relationships, and other risky behavior.
When your son/daughter has been accused of violating the Butler
University Rules of Conduct:
- Speak with your son /daughter regarding the situation. Make
sure that you listen carefully and critically.
- Make sure your son/daughter knows the student conduct process.
Your son/daughter should review the Rules of Conduct, Standard
Sanctions, and the Rights and Responsibilities section of the 2010-11 Student
- Discuss with your son/daughter your expectations for their
behavior at Butler University. Discuss ways your son/daughter can
modify his or her behavior to meet those expectations.
- Brainstorm with your son/daughter appropriate resources for
help and support (e.g., alcohol education, personal counseling,
- Let your son/daughter know where you stand regarding his or her
behavior, while continuing to support him or her emotionally.
- Brainstorm with your son/daughter ways to overcome past
- Be firm in your approach but always keep the lines of