Happy Friday everyone! Last Saturday I had a lot of me time to wander and think some thoughts and just observe things happening around me. During this time for self-reflection, I readily and happily started talking to myself out loud. Instead of keeping my thoughts cooped up in my brain space, I said them out loud. It felt really great and got me to wondering: if we can sing song lyrics, which are other people’s thoughts, out loud, then why is it considered taboo to speak our own thoughts out loud in the same fashion?
We certainly can speak our thoughts out loud as freely as we choose, but most of the time, it is considered strange or the speaker seems mentally unstable. Consequently, we go around singing song lyrics out loud for people to hear as we are walking to class or wandering aimlessly. Why is it considered more “normal” to say someone else’s thoughts out loud, but not our own? Shouldn’t it be the exact opposite? I think the main reason singing out loud seems more “normal” is because those are someone else’s thoughts. Chances are, someone walking by you hearing you sing probably recognizes the song you’re singing, so it normalizes the process. If you’re muttering something under your breath, but someone else recognizes and identifies with these mutterings, they are less threatening. It becomes less “creepy”.
If someone hears you talking out loud to yourself, people will certainly recognize the words you are saying, but they won’t know exactly what you’re talking about as readily as if you were singing. Since what you are saying is a little unknown, someone’s natural inclination is to deem it strange or uncomfortable. Your personal thoughts are less universally recognized than thoughts made popular by the radio, so it is stranger for people to actually hear them when you are alone. We also seem to think it’s okay for someone to sing to themselves or disconnect from reality just because they have white ear buds in their ears. Seeing someone saying something out loud with ear buds in their ears leads us to assume that they’re just a fun-loving guy or gal singing along to some tunes. Just because you don’t have ear buds in your ears as you’re speaking to yourself, people assume it’s not okay or not allowed for you to disconnect in the same way as if you did.
I obviously think deeming talking out loud to oneself as crazy is completely bonkers. If you’ve never wandered around and just said your thoughts out loud or talked openly about something that’s been bothering you recently, I highly suggest you do. There is something incredibly therapeutic and liberating about talking out your concerns with yourself and the world around you as a witness. It feels good, it sounds good, and it is not crazy. Just because nobody else is doing it doesn’t mean it isn’t valid.
Have a great weekend, go talk to yourself, and thanks for reading